Is it my fault?

[Darius]

Hi dbl. Whenever someone asks, directly or indirectly, for the kind of advice that involves the heart, we need to be careful. It's often best to answer questions with a question. For example; when he said he was wondering about breaking up with his bf, you could ask what's going on with him and the bf and see where that leads. If he says his bf is beating him up, advising him to break up is appropriate. If he says the relationship has become stale, that same advice would be inappropriate because they might just need to work through some issues. Ultimately, the responsibility for decisions has to fall on the person making it and when we give direct advice that leads them toward a certain decision, then we have taken some responsibility on ourselves.

Advice on these things is always tricky and you should just keep lines of communication open with him. In time you will see if he made the right decision or a mistake. If he regrets it, it might not be fatal.