Being Gay

[Emiliano]

it's complicated ..........................

but i think there is a backstory to everything ... let me tell you mine.. born the eldest with three sisters only male in the family .. has three aunts and no uncles on the maternal side .. couldnt connect with the paternal side well because of the rift caused by my mom's quarrel with my dad's sister which was an ancient argument over my aunt's disapproval of my mom to be his brother's wife .. that is why i never really had a strong male figure growing up .. always wished that i had one though ..

It sounds like you might be taking this in the direction of why you think you are gay or have an attraction to men. Which is also fine. So if you had no male influences in your immediate family, what kind of male figures were you drawn to as a younger person? Like what did you look to as a role model in terms of people in your community or in pop culture? Just out of curiousity.


But I had intended this thread to ask what influence, if any, that being gay has has on your identity / personality? Does being gay bring anything additional to your personality? Or maybe does it remove something from your personality?

I was inspired to ask this by some of the responses in your thread about ex gays. Is sexual attraction all that being gay is? Or are we in some ways different from people who are not gay? In terms of how we perceive, interpret, and relate to the world that is.