I think my wanting to see a man naked has made me gay

[LJay]

I think that you are 25 years old and it is time to form your own experiences rather than overindulge in analysis of your childhood. Believe me, it was not from seeing my father unclothed, which I will admit was extremely rare, that I knew I was gay. Your posts make me think that you are looking for some environmental factor that "made" you gay rather than squarely facing the idea that you are gay because you were born that way. This means to me that you are in a state of denial or at least very uncomfortable with being gay.

In several threads I have noticed fellows under 30 asserting that being gay is OK. They say this with a confidence that I would never have had at their age. I do understand that this is not the experience of everyone these days, but it is certainly possible that it can be yours if you have the independence to make it so. If you do not wish to "practice" or openly admit being gay, that is your privilege, but you should face up to the fact that identifying yourself as gay on this forum is an admission of some sort or other.

There are certainly a good number of people that will never approve of anyone being gay, but these days more and more people are tolerant and able to admit that being gay is not a choice. I even saw just that attitude written into the script for a teenage character on TV last night. With a larger and larger part of the populace exhibiting that attitude perhaps you should consider it also.