Gemini
10-22-2016, 06:58 PM
OK, deep breath here. Let's sort out what you're saying.
I do get what you said about being scared to talk to gay people. There's a predatory element of gay culture that I frankly find a bit intimidating too. The club scene for instance. Some of the dating sites. I mean, I'm gay, I'm out - but I'm a pretty down to earth guy and some dude in a club who greets me by saying he'd love to see my lips around his dick - WTF do I say to that? Hi, nice to meet you, too? If you meet gays at, say an LGBT drop in center or campus activity-based group,, IDK. You meet normal people in normal places. I'm not saying this right, I just mean be careful where you meet people.
It kind of sounds like what you're really afraid of is coming out. So afraid that even associating with other gays sets your mind racing to all sort of "what if" scenarios.
Simple truth, you're going to need to be financially independent before you even think about coming out. You don't have to do anything right now. There are a lot of things you'll need to consider over time, but first you need to get a grip.
It might help for you to just hang out here a bit, talk to people, learn about the rest uf us, our lives and our issues. Talk to us. Maybe you'll start to feel more comfortable. Take it slowly. Relax.
I do get what you said about being scared to talk to gay people. There's a predatory element of gay culture that I frankly find a bit intimidating too. The club scene for instance. Some of the dating sites. I mean, I'm gay, I'm out - but I'm a pretty down to earth guy and some dude in a club who greets me by saying he'd love to see my lips around his dick - WTF do I say to that? Hi, nice to meet you, too? If you meet gays at, say an LGBT drop in center or campus activity-based group,, IDK. You meet normal people in normal places. I'm not saying this right, I just mean be careful where you meet people.
It kind of sounds like what you're really afraid of is coming out. So afraid that even associating with other gays sets your mind racing to all sort of "what if" scenarios.
Simple truth, you're going to need to be financially independent before you even think about coming out. You don't have to do anything right now. There are a lot of things you'll need to consider over time, but first you need to get a grip.
It might help for you to just hang out here a bit, talk to people, learn about the rest uf us, our lives and our issues. Talk to us. Maybe you'll start to feel more comfortable. Take it slowly. Relax.
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