How do you flirt with a guy?

[meridannight]

@meridannight That is true but what are you calling touching exactly? Are we talking cuddling or slipping your hand down their pants and...

I'm not a Neanderthal. Regular touching, but more personal. More personal than the type of touching one has with a colleague or a friend, but not explicitly sexual (although where the line is exactly is hard to tell. But by ''sexual'' in this context I mean touching his sexual parts). Touching that you don't have to do. Going slightly out of your comfort zone touching. Which means, either touching him in a spot that is not usually touched by casual acquaintances and friends (e.g. thigh or knee) or, more often, it's in the way that I touch him. It's in how long I hold the contact between us, and whether/how I rub/press/grab the flesh under my hand. You can convey intimacy and desire by simply taking hold of his upper arm, holding the contact and gently rubbing it with your thumb. (Of course, there is the whole context of your body language to go along with it while you touch him, but for clarity I won't go into that).

Like once there was this guy I liked a lot; we hadn't ever touched each other, but I wanted to let him know that I liked him. So one day when I was saying goodbye to him I also placed my hand on his shoulder and held it a while. That was the first time we touched, we hadn't even so much as ever shaken hands with each other. Next time I saw him, to my surprise, he reciprocated with a touch of his own. It's how it goes. Men are exquisitely receptive to touch.

Grabbing straight for his genitals is something I consider crude and unimaginative. I have better taste than that.