Im not sure if its ok to get a girlfriend

[meridannight]

Even if Im not 100% with them I would still be a better companion than most of the other guys I know are to their wives and girlfriends. I mean everyone has their quirks, I could be with a woman and maybe occasionally I find a little something else, honestly we all have secrets.

You are missing the point. You keep thinking that how you feel about it right now is how you'll feel about it 10-20 years from now. That things will just keep on being the same. Which will not be the case. In 10-20 years you'll wake up and realize that everything has been a lie, that you have wasted your life and chances. And by then it's too late to take any of it back and it will be that much more difficult to make a fresh start at 40-50.

I'm not even talking about you being a good companion to a woman. You can probably be that. Fine. But what about You? You can't live neglecting your own emotional and physical needs. You may think you can compromise on it now, but you can't without paying a heavy price at the expense of your mental and emotional health. One day you'll wake up and it will painfully hit home for you. That's what I want you to understand.


I hope you give it more serious thought. Or at least don't commit yourself to such a resolution. You are treating this thing too lightly.