Aries
11-16-2016, 09:43 PM
Hey [MENTION=24108]Doc[/MENTION], Arizona is just as conservative, and the "political environment of where I am / will be living" is a cop out you are using to justify your actions. You're not out because you don't want to be out, period. Own it.
It's too bad Virge isn't here anymore to give his perspective. He did a tour or two in Afghanistan, he's a former Marine living in small town South Dakota. Moved into a 100% conservative neighborhood as an out gay man. None of his neighbors thought they'd ever like a gay man. He won them over by being a good neighbor and a forthright person. He'd bring his tractor over and plow the snow off their driveways before they even got out of bed. Just made himself useful. Changed a lot of people's notion of what a gay person is. You can't change their misconceptions when you are closeted. Maybe you don't want to, fair enough, it's your choice.
One option that didn't come up in this discussion. Find yourself a lesbian who wants cover just like you do. At least then you're only deceiving your friends and family and not emotionally victimizing some innocent woman.
I'm an out gay farmer in a tiny Hispanic catholic village of 640 people. You might have more guns than me, but I probably have more 4x4s than you.
Good luck to you. Sounds like you're gonna need it.
It's too bad Virge isn't here anymore to give his perspective. He did a tour or two in Afghanistan, he's a former Marine living in small town South Dakota. Moved into a 100% conservative neighborhood as an out gay man. None of his neighbors thought they'd ever like a gay man. He won them over by being a good neighbor and a forthright person. He'd bring his tractor over and plow the snow off their driveways before they even got out of bed. Just made himself useful. Changed a lot of people's notion of what a gay person is. You can't change their misconceptions when you are closeted. Maybe you don't want to, fair enough, it's your choice.
One option that didn't come up in this discussion. Find yourself a lesbian who wants cover just like you do. At least then you're only deceiving your friends and family and not emotionally victimizing some innocent woman.
I'm an out gay farmer in a tiny Hispanic catholic village of 640 people. You might have more guns than me, but I probably have more 4x4s than you.
Good luck to you. Sounds like you're gonna need it.
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