Im not sure if its ok to get a girlfriend

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Like I said my relationships with men have only ever been sexual and niether of us ever said we were gay.

Actually, that's not true. You said it yourself:

I know you can be in love with somebody that you are not sexually attracted to I had a friend and we were always together for two years and I just loved to be around him and we were apart I was so sad, he ended up getting married and he moved away and I was just devastated, but it was platonic love, nothing sexual ever happened, and I was head over heels in love with him.

Just because nothing sexual happened (i.e. neither of you made a move on the other) doesn't mean you're home free on the gay thing. You were in love with another man! The things you said above are the very definition of being a homosexual. That's how homosexual men react to other men. The fact that you missed that shows just how much in denial you are.

You've got this thing backwards, it seems. Homosexuality does not mean you have sex with men, as such (most of the male population would then be homosexual, in fact). Homosexuality means a persistent desire and attraction (physical and emotional) to men.

Might my preference for men be similar to some guys liking different types of women.

If you have to ask, then probably no. People know who they are attracted to and who they want to be with. They don't need to wonder about it. Confusion arises when you are one thing but want to be another, for example. Or from some other conflict inside you.

You probably aren't in touch with yourself that well. That's one thing you need to work on before you settle down in life.