Im not sure if its ok to get a girlfriend

[Insertnamehere]

Listen Im not saying Im 100% sure about who I am either way we go. What I am saying is that for the most part I really like being with a woman with the exception of the sex which is tolerable.

I like the idea of having a wife and a little house and children and I could go to work my wife could take care of my house. Around the holidays we could do stupid stuff like all families do such as taking your children to the pumpkin patch. And people would say what a beautiful couple we make. Its normal, its acceptable, and its what people expect. Haven't any of you guys ever wanted that?

This is all very much ok and you CAN go ahead with that if you want. The part where you plan to still sleep around with men is not ok. You can't have both things and remain a decent person.

Change for a second your sexuality to fully straight and change these potential men with potential women. Do you think it's ok for a man to cheat on his wife, sleep around, damage his family like that?

Why would it be ok for you to do it just because you want sex with men? You can't have it all.

If you're engaging in a relationship of any kind the only way for you to get what you want is to be honest with the woman and see if she can agree with such an arrangement.

Otherwise, you're indulging in deception and that will turn to damage for both you and her and gawd forbid, your children if there are any.

You will turn yourself into a world class asshole and there is already so many of those in the world.

Man, you don't strike me as one. You strike me as troubled, something that many of us are when it comes to dealing with our non-standard sexuality. Don't let the weight of those troubles turn you into something you are not meant to be.