Im not sure if its ok to get a girlfriend

[Doc]

Hey [MENTION=24108]Doc[/MENTION],

At some point you are going to have to figure out what parts of your personality are defensive strategies from the schoolyard and elsewhere and what parts of your personality are the real you. Since no society fully embraces same sex attraction, those of us who have that attraction have had to devise strategies to function in the real world. As adults who want to be the best we can, we need to assess if the strategies continue to serve us, or are even needed at all anymore.

I agree with you 100% and I feel the my over the top exaggerated masculinity is a part of my personality now. If you do something long enough it becomes a part of who you are. Its like when I first started to drink whiskey I hated it, but its what tough guys do so I kept at it, and now I quite like it. But you are totally right my personality as it is now did arise as a defensive strategy.

I know that my short temper and eagerness for finding violent solutions to my problems can go. I'd love to work on my issue with being touched in public but I dont know thats a big one for me. I know from experience that my eagerness to fist fight everyone has led alot of people to not wanting to be around me, and that is something I need work on.