Can we still be friends?

[IanSaysHi]

First of all sorry you're in this situation, it's never easy to feel on whatever level your feelings for someone are more than theirs.

I just wrote an essay but found myself saying the same things in different ways so I'll boil it down: you've tried to stay in touch and left the ball in his court, now however hard it is it's time to try and move on. I know how easy that is for me to say as an outsider. Try socialising with your other friends and keeping busy for a while. From what you've said although he cleverly never absolutely said yes to a relationship, he did string you along whilst he worked out if his ex was still interested. Maybe he will get back in touch (don't hold out hope) once you stop contacting him, and if so just be very careful because he's toyed around with you.

I wish you all the best going forward, like I say just soldier on for a while and however difficult it feels, seek out new social possibilities when you can.