06-06-2009, 05:09 AM
Hello!
I'm new here but I'm going to just jump right in...
The key to any successful relationship is communication (as I'm sure you know) but you have to make sure that you're not the only one talking. While I certainly don't know the whole story of what is going on you did offer some clues and as I was reading two things popped into my mind.
I agree with the previous posted that it sounds like he's not being completely open and honest with you. Having said that he's in a weird place indicates that I'm in a place that I can't talk to you about.
Now being men this could be any number of things, he's a man's man and wants to take care of it on his own. He doesn't want to stress you out or make you worry. He's trying to protect you, and the list goes on.
It's up to you to make him realize that whatever it is GOOD or BAD he can talk to you about it.
Second, and probably more importantly is his age. At that age having no sex drive (come on lets face it none of us are going two years without sex voluntarily) means that it could be a health issue, something as simple as prostate problems, chemical imbalance, erectile dysfunction, all of which have solutions.
But here the thing relationships or give and take when you love someone the lines of who's a top who's a bottom and how often you guys have sex in a day or in a week should become blurred and together you find that mix that works for the both of you. If you can't do that, then it's not meant to be.
Understand that a relationship is full of compromises, and you're not always going to get what you want and sometimes not what you need. Communication is that key though, you have to be able to talk it out and express EVERYTHING in order to make it work.
If you can't do that...you relationship will be taxing on both of you and you will fail.
Hope that helps!
I'm new here but I'm going to just jump right in...
The key to any successful relationship is communication (as I'm sure you know) but you have to make sure that you're not the only one talking. While I certainly don't know the whole story of what is going on you did offer some clues and as I was reading two things popped into my mind.
I agree with the previous posted that it sounds like he's not being completely open and honest with you. Having said that he's in a weird place indicates that I'm in a place that I can't talk to you about.
Now being men this could be any number of things, he's a man's man and wants to take care of it on his own. He doesn't want to stress you out or make you worry. He's trying to protect you, and the list goes on.
It's up to you to make him realize that whatever it is GOOD or BAD he can talk to you about it.
Second, and probably more importantly is his age. At that age having no sex drive (come on lets face it none of us are going two years without sex voluntarily) means that it could be a health issue, something as simple as prostate problems, chemical imbalance, erectile dysfunction, all of which have solutions.
But here the thing relationships or give and take when you love someone the lines of who's a top who's a bottom and how often you guys have sex in a day or in a week should become blurred and together you find that mix that works for the both of you. If you can't do that, then it's not meant to be.
Understand that a relationship is full of compromises, and you're not always going to get what you want and sometimes not what you need. Communication is that key though, you have to be able to talk it out and express EVERYTHING in order to make it work.
If you can't do that...you relationship will be taxing on both of you and you will fail.
Hope that helps!
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