Why did I get ghosted?

[kai35]

The more I think about it, the more I feel that it is an "ex" issue. He talked about his ex more than one would expect someone who is "over it" to do so. He was also seemingly reluctant to kiss me. He did, but he said it was because I was leaning in. I'm usually reserved/shy in that regard, but he told me he was trying to get me drunk. And even though I was trying to avoid any kind of physical contact (I've had bad experiences with doing that too early in a dating scenario).. get a few drinks in me and in a room with a guy who's shown some level of interest and I'm a lost cause. Between him saying he wanted to come with me on my trip to Europe this fall and his rather abbreviated demeanor in the morning (groping my ass in bed, but no kiss goodbye), I am left pretty confused. As I said, I've been ghosted before, but never after the other party has expressed physical interest so recently.

I know it's silly to get this worked up about a guy I've only met once. But living where I do, there are only a handful of guys within reasonable driving distance. Dates with attractive, intelligent guys around my age are literally annual events at most. So it is tremendously disappointing when they don't pan out. I feel played and emotionally whiplashed. :-\