06-05-2017, 09:18 AM
The thing about drunken states is that it generally reinforces something that's already there, underlying a normal state of consciousness and sometimes consciously repressed. There is a genuine fondness for you there and as [MENTION=21405]meridannight[/MENTION] said, a feeling of comfort between you, so that's something you can build on. Why, though, are you so scared of letting your feelings be felt? Rejection, right?
Well, you are aware that rejection is a possibility, but you shouldn't blame it on yourself for wearing your heart out on your sleeve. I agree with Meridannight that having the opportunity to live together may make you closer, and give you the opportunity for something to develop if it's going to go anywhere. But your friend's questioning of your relationship does seem to show the same sort of shyness and fear of rejection on his part. It looks as if, at some point, one of you is going to have to make a first move, and see where that leads, but you, at least, while things are standing in the status quo or limbo, know that rejection on his part is a possibility.
You might ask him, I guess, whether he's happy with just being friends, or whether he'd like something more out of your relationship than just sharing a flat. The question is, will you dare ask him? Perhaps the notion of a friendship between you is enough to fulfill his need for bonding. If you are falling for him, how long will this be sustainable?
Well, you are aware that rejection is a possibility, but you shouldn't blame it on yourself for wearing your heart out on your sleeve. I agree with Meridannight that having the opportunity to live together may make you closer, and give you the opportunity for something to develop if it's going to go anywhere. But your friend's questioning of your relationship does seem to show the same sort of shyness and fear of rejection on his part. It looks as if, at some point, one of you is going to have to make a first move, and see where that leads, but you, at least, while things are standing in the status quo or limbo, know that rejection on his part is a possibility.
You might ask him, I guess, whether he's happy with just being friends, or whether he'd like something more out of your relationship than just sharing a flat. The question is, will you dare ask him? Perhaps the notion of a friendship between you is enough to fulfill his need for bonding. If you are falling for him, how long will this be sustainable?
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