Cheating boyfriend - just venting if someone's willing to listen

[CellarDweller]

I'm sorry that you had to find out about your boyfriend this way, and I'm sorry that he's hurt and betrayed you so.

It is going to take you a lot of time to get past this. Please be patient and gentle with yourself, and always remember that this isn't your fault. He decided to take a lover without telling you, and he was the one who acted out and kept secrets. This is on him.

Yes, you need time to heal, and you will find the light at the end of the dark tunnel. Always keep what you want in mind, especially when he calls you. He knows what he wants, he wants to have an open relationship with many lovers. If this doesn't fit what you want, do not reunite with him.