Cheating boyfriend - just venting if someone's willing to listen

[Cridders88]

Firstly, I am so sorry @"FlyFlyHighUp" that your boyfriend of 12 years treated you this way. I don't get cheating, but I guess the reason for it in most instances is cowardice. Not having the guts to end a monogamous relationship. In this instance, it is clear your boyfriend's wants or needs changed, and he wanted an open relationship. However, what he most certainly should have done is be frank with you and discuss this with you, and not go behind your back. It is very ballsy of him to ask you for an open relationship when he hasn't been at all open with you in the last 6 months. Again, I am sorry you have been treated this way.

Take your time. I can't imagine just how hard this is. Don't feel like you shouldn't be posting this, you are clearly hurt, and if venting makes you feel at least a little better, vent away. It is not healthy bottling things up.

You are not the idiot. He is. You will probably find yourself questioning why he did what he did a lot, but what this was is his needs changing and him not communicating this with you.

Hopefully you feel inclined to stick around, it's a good community here and hopefully you will find it a good place to either talk about things or just chat and take your mind off it