Cheating boyfriend - just venting if someone's willing to listen

[Pyromancer]

Your post made me feel sad because I could have written it myself a few years back.  The circumstances were a little different, I got a call from my daughter's daycare that she was feeling sick.  I left work, picked her up and took her home...3 hours early...and found my husband getting a BJ from a guy who thought they were "going steady".  It turned out that he was cheating on me with him, and cheating on him with a bunch of random hookups.

We'd been together for a long time and I trusted him implicitly.  People asked me, How could you not have known?  Well, it never even occurred to me that this might happen.  This was Kevin, my rock, love of my life.  I did what you've done, I left him, though being married and having a kid complicated it in all kinds of ways.

I just want to say, you're not alone.  I have a good idea how you must be feeling.  Just remember, this is in no way your fault, you bear no blame.  People told me I was too trusting.  But if you can't trust your life partner, than what's the point.  I've struggled very hard with being able to trust again, and I've concluded that if I ever get that close to someone again, I would rather end up getting hurt again than living with constant suspicion and lack of trust.

For now, take care of yourself.  Give yourself time and space to grieve the death of the relationship.  

I'm so sorry that this happened to you...and I know this sounds like a huge cliche, but from my own experience, things DO get better.