Leo
01-04-2021, 02:20 PM
@soulfulriver I'm sorry you experienced these things, people seem to not have any limits on how hateful and inhumane one can be.
It is so very easy to relive those moments just as this made me think about a lot of the hateful and hurtful things people did to me back in school. I wish I had some special wisdom and knew what to say that would translate to how to get that stuff out of your head. I did deal with social anxiety growing up and I still have it to an extent. I think the important thing to understand is that there is nothing wrong with you. There's nothing wrong with how you act, nothing wrong with how you look, nothing with how you hold a fork and nothing wrong with your sexuality.
People are hateful and will continue to be hateful. The problem is with them and not you. Frankly I'm not convinced God made anyone, what sort of God creates people capable of being hateful and deliberately hurtful to others for no reason?
Not sure what resources you have in your country. I know for me "exposure therapy" helped me be more comfortable in social situations, of course, if people are being shitty to you because how how you look and dress or whatever the case is, that doesn't help. So there's the second component to deal with and that is dealing with assholes and the things they say. I feel that it something a good therapist can help you with, there is no trick to dealing with those sorts of things but rather helping you use tools and exercises that can help you deal with those encounters.
We only get to go around once and I think allowing hateful people to dictate how you live is wrong and the sooner you can give these people and those memories no space in your thoughts the better. It is much easier said than done but I do believe it is attainable. It may take therapy, may take support, may take years but it is something you can achieve and be able to move past.
Hopefully you find something in my reply helpful. You can PM me if you like as well.
It is so very easy to relive those moments just as this made me think about a lot of the hateful and hurtful things people did to me back in school. I wish I had some special wisdom and knew what to say that would translate to how to get that stuff out of your head. I did deal with social anxiety growing up and I still have it to an extent. I think the important thing to understand is that there is nothing wrong with you. There's nothing wrong with how you act, nothing wrong with how you look, nothing with how you hold a fork and nothing wrong with your sexuality.
People are hateful and will continue to be hateful. The problem is with them and not you. Frankly I'm not convinced God made anyone, what sort of God creates people capable of being hateful and deliberately hurtful to others for no reason?
Not sure what resources you have in your country. I know for me "exposure therapy" helped me be more comfortable in social situations, of course, if people are being shitty to you because how how you look and dress or whatever the case is, that doesn't help. So there's the second component to deal with and that is dealing with assholes and the things they say. I feel that it something a good therapist can help you with, there is no trick to dealing with those sorts of things but rather helping you use tools and exercises that can help you deal with those encounters.
We only get to go around once and I think allowing hateful people to dictate how you live is wrong and the sooner you can give these people and those memories no space in your thoughts the better. It is much easier said than done but I do believe it is attainable. It may take therapy, may take support, may take years but it is something you can achieve and be able to move past.
Hopefully you find something in my reply helpful. You can PM me if you like as well.
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