Advice on flirting and being friendly...

[InbetweenDreams]

I see in your signature you have a blog and podcast on spiritual gardening. That seems very interesting to me. I am curious and would like to know more about it. If you can not mention it in a public forum post, can you pm me more about it.

Thanks,
Richard

Well in short it is something I started back in Jan/Feb, I thought it would be interesting to try to start a podcast on the subject of spirituality and religion. Those are both things that I have put on the back burner in my life and I think it is something I need to look at more closely and thought a podcast was both a good way to push myself into it. One thing that is true is I'm not a good interviewer. I tend to have social anxiety and a lot of vocal ticks. Haven't recorded any new episodes this month yet just need to find time to do it.

After writing about it and giving it more thought, I have come to the conclusion that thinking like this at this point is way too soon to remotely worry about.  We are on the same page it seems like everything we have brought up in chat and on the phone.  We did chat last night and he did say that if this did transpire into something exclusive, he would opt out of the single groups. I am very new to having a serious same sex relationship and even dating a gay guy. I just could not make myself confront him about openly flirting on FB. It is way too soon to allow myself to be that overly involved at this point. We are both in the same age bracket 57 and not getting any younger. I do not want to mess things up with him.

Thanks you  both for sharing. It did help me to see things clearer

Richard

I can tell you from my own experience, jealousy hits hard when you really like someone. It's harder than one might realize to keep yourself in check emotionally. Oxytocin is hellava drug and one that caused me a lot of grief. I don't crush on people easily but last time I did it went badly. I can also say from experience, it is easy to give advice but much harder to take it. But yeah, take it easy and let things play out, might work out with him and perhaps it might not. The guy I'm dating right now is 180 miles away but most aren't interested when they're 40 miles away.