Confused about my sexuality

[Antagonist]

Everyone comes to terms with their sexual identities in different ways and at different times in their lives. For instance, I've known that I was attracted to men since I can remember, even before I knew what being gay or having sex meant. My brother, on the other hand, used to dream that he was an attractive boy from school who was having sex with some girl that he was attracted to, and it wasn't until his freshman year of college that he concluded that he was just as attracted to the boy personae in the dream as he was to the female. The only difference was that his subconscious wouldn't let him dream of making love to the boy. Instead, he had to become the boy and then make love to a woman.

I, too, used to date and have sex women, and I was even married for three years in my younger days. However, I always knew that relationships and sex with women were not what I wanted. I simply thought that having sex with women would make me stop being gay. I believe that our sexual orientations are a lot more fluid than we like to think. But, I find it comforting as a gay man to finally be able to embrace my label and to present myself to the public as being "Gay."

Unfortunately, bisexuals get the shaft when it comes to labels, because they are rejected by the straight community for being "Gay" and by the gay community for being able to pass. I also believe that being bisexual is the gay civil rights equivalent to the light-skinned people during the black civil right movement who were able to pass. I even catch myself making snide, stereotypical remarks about bisexuals without thinking first.