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[postman]

Thanks for all the friendly replies guys......after all these years I tend to just think of "living with secrets" as living in general.......
and I am very lucky in that my married life is very happy and certainly not lonely......
my wife is my best friend in the world and also my lover (just not the only one)......I am not likely to change the status quo any time soon.
I avoid sending personal texts to my special "friend" which might come back and bite me on the ass and only have "fun" behind locked doors........ my friend has been in a long term gay relationship for nearly 10yrs and together we just take up the slack........ and keep each other happy.....although I do sometimes remind him that I met him first

It is great to find somewhere like this and share experiences with others..... the posts are very insightful and peoples stories and takes on life can be very comforting.....much respect to one and all