Human dating poison? Is it me?

[princealbertofb]

First of all to GaySpeak. You have come to the right place for that kind of problem.

I would be tempted to say the same as Fenris here... that it gets easier to know what you like and what you don't like after a while and a bit of experience... what you are ready to put up with and what you really don't think you can handle...
Your case seems a little sadder in the fact that you have never broken up with them, they've always ended up breaking up with you... Is that correct? Have you ever ditched anyone of your own will? Or has it never happened at all? My take on this is probably that you are a little too desperate to find the right person. I don't mean to be hurtful, when I say 'too desperate', but it does seem to me that you are letting everyone else walk all over you... And you've just about had enough. Are you too easy-going? Are you too quick to let your guard down and go with the first Jo that finds you attractive and manages to give you the sweet talk?
To help out, we'd really need to know more about how you go about these things. Do you say yes at the first encounter, at the first date? Because if you do (out of loneliness, or because you're a softie, or whatever...) people will think that you're in this for a one night stand and since they are too, then it's ok just to go to bed and then not call the next day, or ever again.
I believe you ARE meeting the wrong kind of guy, and probably you are meeting them in the wrong kind of setting. The "scene", as we call it, is not for everybody's liking, and although you might find a very nice partner on the scene, you might also have to kiss a lot of toads before you finally meet him or reach him. Maybe playing hard to get would work a little better. Maybe it means you need to get some of your priorities straightened out. Such as:
* No, I won't sleep with the first guy that finds me attractive on the first night.
* No, I don't want just sex and nothing else.
* Yes, I am worth being in a relationship with because I have a lot of genuine loving to give.
* Yes, there are people out there looking for the same thing(s) as me.

On the other hand it may just mean that you've been really unlucky with your opportunities to meet the right person(s). I would suggest trying to find a person whose interests are in the same kinds of areas as you, be it literature, or the cinema, or fighting for animal rights or even a religious belief... If you both love cooking or acting then see if there isn't a group for you where you can take cooking lessons, or do drama... A sports group, a singing group, a charity... you name it. It's easier to find people who are genuinely interesting in social groups other than the "scene". It's well known that the scene is a bit of a meat rack, and as you are only 28, I'm sure you are still quite attractive in that sense.