Freakin out! And Not in a good way :)

[Hazel]

Excuse the weirdo reply-to-your-reply here, but I can hear wisdom in your response. And that’s comforting because, as you might have guessed from the brief history up there, I really am looking for sincere responses.

I think you give good advice, and I’m going to take it. Focus more attention on the guy I feel something for and see what happens.

In terms of your question, “Are you trying to say that conforming would be so much easier if you could settle for a man?” Yes. I am saying that. Except, I’m hoping that my resolution wouldn’t be “settling” per say, but just “pursuing” the option that makes life easier, assuming that I wouldn’t lose anything if I could. Now, don’t get me wrong, you are correct in calling me out. IF it comes to needing to “settle,” I know I have it in me to be loyal and happy even if the fit is a little askew. This pisses me off about myself because I often get on a soap box about people supporting one another and being who they are, and Rejecting Oppression and Informing Ignorance. But, then I go and genuinely think something like, “well, for me, maybe it’s okay to settle” if I have to. It makes me feel like a coward. Yet (I think) I know if Super Someone came along, my tune would change because he/she would be worth it.

“There is also the possibility that a husband or male partner would not feel threatened by the presence of another woman in your life” Hmmmmmmmm. Interesting…This is also something I never thought about...worth considering

je-ne-sais-quoi- love that word! I’m definitely going to use it today.

Thank you very much for taking the time to read and reply. You gave me a lot to chew on, and I really appreciate it.