Freakin out! And Not in a good way :)

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Many straight women have to satisfy themselves. Men are basically pigs and are unable to fully satisfy a woman. Human design tends to favor male pleasure than female pleasure. Its a design flaw. Most women will, however, respond very well to a lot of foreplay and other activities beyond intercourse. Having a partner who takes their time and 'plays' before will often have remarkable results for the woman.

Many straight women have no other choice but to use lube. KY was invented for women, not for gay anal sex. There are hormonal and other 'womanly issues' that lead to 'dryness' down yonder that has nothing to do with a woman's ability or interest in bed.
Vaginal dryness — causes and natural relief for more on that subject.

Age does not set a limit for 'confusion' At age 40 I had no idea what I wanted to be when I grow up... Even later in life I am often confused... or its senility...? :tongue:

I would suggest you go to a doctor and address potential medical reasons for lack of enthusiasm in bed (physical responses). hormonal issues can also have a huge impact on your interest in sex (any sex with anyone) which can turn around and affect other aspects of your relationship.

I’m trying to differentiate emotional attraction from physical attraction and finally physiological attraction

Often these aspects are so tightly bound with one another you can not tell where one ends and the other begins. This is perfectly 'normal' and falls well within human experience.

Just because you haven't met 'the one' either male or female doesn't mean there is something 'wrong' with you or that you are barking up the wrong trees, it only means you haven't found 'the one'.