never noticed by other guys!

[princealbertofb]

hi! im new here. I have a problem thats been bothering me for some time now. Im not noticed by other gay guys, im comletly ignored!! i dont know why. well... im not very much into fashion that is, and i dont act too afeminate, so im not obviously gay i guess. im not too masculine either, but i dont really like acting "girly" it personally (no offense) turns me off. i like guys masculine, well thats for another thread i guess lol.
Well the thing is that it is really easy for me to get girls, girls often look at me and flirt, in the university it is so easy hooking up with hot girls and i have even tried but i just give up cause i dont feel anything.
Im not open about being gay, i have told no one around, well i just decided its going to be this way for now, and i dont feel bad about it though. and add that i am very shy i have no chance of meeting other guys

so what do you guys suggest, do i have to be more gay wear like rainbow colors or something? is it that im ugly to other gay men? plizz help!!

Hello and to GaySpeak.

First of all, this may have something to do with where you live, Puerto Rico... Maybe people see gays as more flamboyant, which you say you aren't.

You can get girls, lots of them; I think that's the appeal of shyness for them. Men, I think, can be attracted to shyness, but might be more attracted to a certain confidence. So maybe it'll take a slight change in boldness and attitude. Maybe you could wear a sign that would give out a little signal. I don't know, a fancy hat, or a badge for a cause, or something, something that would make you noticeable in some way.

Maybe ask some of the girls you know what clothes make you look sexy? That might be another clue.

As for gays loving straights, as Sil says, I'm not sure that that's the case at all. I think they love the idea of a straight manly male, but in their heart of hearts they'd far rather go with someone who they know will enjoy what the gay life has to offer... and not cringe from it all. So basically it is about confidence and attitude.

You might try just talking to these people you are interested in and show curiosity about what interests them. Just go up, introduce yourself, and ask a few questions. It'll get the ball rolling. Maybe ask them out for a cup of coffee or invite them around to your place or dorm, or whatever it is you drink in Puerto Rico as a social thing.

Try not to look desperate.

Or else, you can always join a group that has a special interest in something, like a book club, or a movie club or a dance class, or art class, or drama class, or even a charity. You're bound to meet someone eventually with whom you have something in common to share.