never noticed by other guys!

[coco33]

Hello and to GaySpeak.

First of all, this may have something to do with where you live, Puerto Rico... Maybe people see gays as more flamboyant, which you say you aren't.

You can get girls, lots of them; I think that's the appeal of shyness for them. Men, I think, can be attracted to shyness, but might be more attracted to a certain confidence. So maybe it'll take a slight change in boldness and attitude. Maybe you could wear a sign that would give out a little signal. I don't know, a fancy hat, or a badge for a cause, or something, something that would make you noticeable in some way.

Maybe ask some of the girls you know what clothes make you look sexy? That might be another clue.

As for gays loving straights, as Sil says, I'm not sure that that's the case at all. I think they love the idea of a straight manly male, but in their heart of hearts they'd far rather go with someone who they know will enjoy what the gay life has to offer... and not cringe from it all. So basically it is about confidence and attitude.

You might try just talking to these people you are interested in and show curiosity about what interests them. Just go up, introduce yourself, and ask a few questions. It'll get the ball rolling. Maybe ask them out for a cup of coffee or invite them around to your place or dorm, or whatever it is you drink in Puerto Rico as a social thing.

Try not to look desperate.

Or else, you can always join a group that has a special interest in something, like a book club, or a movie club or a dance class, or art class, or drama class, or even a charity. You're bound to meet someone eventually with whom you have something in common to share.

YESS thats exactly it!! here theres no single gay like me, they all are "flamboyant" as you say, its just like evrey gay has to be into fashion, like lady gaga and tecno, know how to dance proffesional ughh i cant stand it!!