10-29-2010, 04:48 PM
Instead of trying to be noticed by gay men to pick you up, why not make friends with a 'known homosexual'. No this is not your booty-call, this will be a friend, your connection to the gay community.
Friends tend to introduce friends, who will introduce you to bars, clubs, scenes - groups of other gays in your local community.
Its called 'networking', getting a group of people who share like minded things that will introduce you to others of like mind.
BTW many do adopt 'gay' as an affectation to blend in, to be noticed. If you affect a character long enough it becomes second nature. Many do so, because like you and me, they have a hard time meeting other gay men.
gays have adopted lots of fashion statements that were intended to be for us to see one another in the crowds of the world, however every 'gay' fashion has been hijacked by straight men. Mustache and goatee has been tried twice, really short super blond hair, bandannas in the pocket, even the formal wear 'pocket square' starts off as being a 'flag' that gay men wore to signal other gay men, it was rapidly adopted by all men as a sensible fashion 'must have'. The list is pretty long.
So your problem is not a unique one, nor is it a new one, its been around for a long time.
Work on making a group of friends, love and sex will come later.
Friends tend to introduce friends, who will introduce you to bars, clubs, scenes - groups of other gays in your local community.
Its called 'networking', getting a group of people who share like minded things that will introduce you to others of like mind.
BTW many do adopt 'gay' as an affectation to blend in, to be noticed. If you affect a character long enough it becomes second nature. Many do so, because like you and me, they have a hard time meeting other gay men.
gays have adopted lots of fashion statements that were intended to be for us to see one another in the crowds of the world, however every 'gay' fashion has been hijacked by straight men. Mustache and goatee has been tried twice, really short super blond hair, bandannas in the pocket, even the formal wear 'pocket square' starts off as being a 'flag' that gay men wore to signal other gay men, it was rapidly adopted by all men as a sensible fashion 'must have'. The list is pretty long.
So your problem is not a unique one, nor is it a new one, its been around for a long time.
Work on making a group of friends, love and sex will come later.
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