Finally got around to joning

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She's been pretty supportive.. though I don't walk to her much about it. When we do talk about it she says contradictory things like "you're not an abomination and you're not going to hell" then she'll say a few minutes later "we're all judged for our choices in the end." ... so I have no idea.

Perhaps she still has the ideas and values she was brought up with, but isn't prepared to reject her son over them?

She thinks I shouldn't tell me dad.. well.. ever.. she thnks he'll reject me. I'm more apt to believe he'll be depressed and internalize it as a personal failure. He's a very introverted person and takes a lot of things personally.. he also tends to lash out at people and say things he doesn't mean.. so.. there's that too. Either way he doesn't know in so far tha tI've told him.. but he's dropped hints before when I've rejected his push for me to date females that perhaps there's something more than just too busy with life to do it.

It seems that your lack of dating women is beginning to worry him. While I, generally speaking, would not agree with never telling your father, you need to choose the time carefully. Perhaps waiting till you have found yourself a good man and are happy with him? You would then be successful, happy and whatever stories he may have heard regarding endless casual gay sex clearly don't apply to you. You may be in a better position to convince him, not to regard your homosexuality as a personal failure, and perhaps to see you success and happiness in life as a personal success (even if it wasn't quite what he had in mind).