Nambla

[eastofeden]

I think you misunderstand. I think what he was trying to say was that having the FEELING of sexual desire for a child is not a choice. Much the same that YOU, eastofeden, having a sexual desire for a man is not a choice.

However, what you think and what you do about it IS a choice. He is saying that you cannot control how you feel, but you can control your thoughts and your actions.

I think I can accept this but I still have questions (I always have questions....endless really}....and I have to think about my next question because I have heard homophobes compare homosexuality to pedophilia, necrophilia, bestiality and even murder...and IF...and I use the word "IF" cautiously...the common bond is lack of choice to how we feel...then these preachers and homophobes are correct.

The obvious difference of course is in action but then again you hear the preachers and religious folk with their usual "hate the sin..not the sinner" and "as long as you don't act on your feelings (homosexuality) then you have not sinned" and I reject both of these as I reject the Bible.

I think I would need to further understand why it is not a choice to feel this way...I want to believe it is conditioning of some sort but then again that is what people used to say about gay people before psychology "legitimized" it.

Very interesting concepts though...things I had never thought about and I appreciate any opportunity to expand my mind and evolve my thinking.

I know I will never approve of the actions because children are supposed to be nurtured not exploited and raped..that is not negotiable to me at all.