11-21-2010, 04:20 AM
Woah Cynmart.... first of all 
to GaySpeak. Your question seems to be about how you can confront him with his secret stuff? You thought you'd been honest with each other up until now, and you've just recently found out that he's not all he seems to be? Have you discussed the possibility of him having sex on the side with a man, or is this something new that you've discovered? I don't know how well he would respond (even in the kind of relationship that you describe) to you snooping through his codes and private mail and stuff. I don't know how proud or ashamed you feel about doing so, but it doesn't sound like very healthy grounds to sort the situation out. However, you are feeling that maybe you need to make a reassessment of your relationship. Have you thought how the changes might affect your well-being and that of your very young children? Have you, because of your pregnancy / pregnancies been giving your partner enough of your intimate time? Does it help you to think that he's getting his kicks with other men rather than with another female?
Could you tell us what questions you are dying to ask him face to face, but maybe do not dare to?
Best of luck, in any case, with dealing with this.
PA
to GaySpeak. Your question seems to be about how you can confront him with his secret stuff? You thought you'd been honest with each other up until now, and you've just recently found out that he's not all he seems to be? Have you discussed the possibility of him having sex on the side with a man, or is this something new that you've discovered? I don't know how well he would respond (even in the kind of relationship that you describe) to you snooping through his codes and private mail and stuff. I don't know how proud or ashamed you feel about doing so, but it doesn't sound like very healthy grounds to sort the situation out. However, you are feeling that maybe you need to make a reassessment of your relationship. Have you thought how the changes might affect your well-being and that of your very young children? Have you, because of your pregnancy / pregnancies been giving your partner enough of your intimate time? Does it help you to think that he's getting his kicks with other men rather than with another female? Could you tell us what questions you are dying to ask him face to face, but maybe do not dare to?
Best of luck, in any case, with dealing with this.
PA
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