in a crazy relationship!

[marshlander]

I can see how he might find calm discussion difficult if he is panicking. On the other hand you too are treading on eggshells. I'm sure we're all relieved that he is not violent. Have you thought how you will field the inevitable? On the one hand you say that you are "open" (what does that mean?), yet you cracked his passwords and snooped around in his private files. I come back to the first point that I made that trust (for both of you) is an issue that is going to need looking at. You are going to need some pretty convincing reasons as to how he can trust you, just as you are of him.