12-27-2010, 08:07 AM
What do you mean by being gay? Is being gay about actions or feelings?
If it is about actions, then it's not homophobic, as such, to suggest that gay people have free-will and could choose to be celibate and therefor, by definition, not be gay. It would be both homophobic and unrealistic to expect lifelong celibacy. It seems to me a rather peculiar definition of being gay if a man who is strongly attracted to other men and hoping to find a serious relationship with another man but in the meantime is not having casual sex, is considered not to be gay.
If it is about feelings, then I think accusing gay people of choosing the way they feel is homophobic, but more importantly, very stupid. It implies that many people who live in plainly homophobic countries choose to be pariahs when the could have easily have chosen to be attracted to members of the opposite sex and have a happy normal family life. It takes blind faith in your own arguments to believe that so many people would make such an absurd choice. Also those who accuse gay people of choosing their feeling usually have no real answer to the question of how, when and why they chose to be straight?
If it is about actions, then it's not homophobic, as such, to suggest that gay people have free-will and could choose to be celibate and therefor, by definition, not be gay. It would be both homophobic and unrealistic to expect lifelong celibacy. It seems to me a rather peculiar definition of being gay if a man who is strongly attracted to other men and hoping to find a serious relationship with another man but in the meantime is not having casual sex, is considered not to be gay.
If it is about feelings, then I think accusing gay people of choosing the way they feel is homophobic, but more importantly, very stupid. It implies that many people who live in plainly homophobic countries choose to be pariahs when the could have easily have chosen to be attracted to members of the opposite sex and have a happy normal family life. It takes blind faith in your own arguments to believe that so many people would make such an absurd choice. Also those who accuse gay people of choosing their feeling usually have no real answer to the question of how, when and why they chose to be straight?
Fred
Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans.
Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans.
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