first date sexual question

[marshlander]

A first date is where you start finding out where the ground is. Sex can be a great cement in a relationship, but if you want whatever you build together to last you might want to consider a decent foundation and a few quality building materials first? Of course, sex on a first date isn't necessarily going to spoil the relationship, but it might end up being a distraction from getting the other stuff in place. If, however, relationship longevity isn't much of a priority, you might decide to follow where events lead as long as you are both okay with that and play safe.

PA and I had about twenty-four hours together the first time we met in real life and we made the most of that time, specially since we had no idea when or if we would be able to meet again. However, we had already been writing to each other daily for several months, so we already knew quite a lot about each other. It did take me a few more months (when we next met) to decide that the relationship maybe had a future and that I would like to try to commit to it. I think PA had already made up his mind long before and he was hoping I would come round to the same conclusion. Eight years later we are still together and probably stronger than ever. I don't know whether that means we broke our own "rules" or not!

I suppose everyone's journey takes a different route.