Boyfriend ex-prostitute - help

[marshlander]

marshlander
Thanks very much for the reply. Do you think it's normal for a couple of 5 months to seek counseling together? Also I wonder how many sessions we would need? I don't know much about it but I'm doubting I can afford it right now .

I can't imagine what it would be like to discuss past experiences so freely like you and your BF. In one way it sounds ideal but for me I don't think this is something I can have in my day-to-day. Did it start out like that or were there hurdles getting there?

I don't know what is normal. I really hope I am never considered merely normal!

Counselling can be expensive. I don't think there is any way around that. It is also a bit of a risk, because so much in counselling relies on the interaction between counsellor and client. Sometimes one has to kiss a few frogs before finding the prince. Here in the UK a lot of employers actually subscribe to an external counselling service which is normally accessible by employees for up to six sessions. I don't know if there is anything like that available where you are? It is completely against the agreement for any employer to be told who has accessed the service, let alone what has been discussed.

With PA and me, we started our relationship by being penfriends first. We wrote to each other every day for months before we even spoke on the telephone. We certainly knew a lot about each other before we ever met. I have yet to find something we can't talk about. This is down to him and I thank him for it. In my previous relationship I had to keep so much hidden because I knew any mention of most things was likely to be explosive. In the end one learns to shut up. One of the many things I love about PA is that whatever I say he doesn't resort to judgement. We just enjoy exploring ideas and we are both able to laugh at many of life's absurdities. That is not to say we haven't both experienced a fair share of pain. Sometimes a hug is only appropriate response.