09-14-2011, 08:33 AM
I'm sorry to read you have been arguing about this for two days. Boyfriend or not you don't own him. He has to be the one to make up his own mind about this offer. Try to tie him down and he's bound to struggle harder.
A free trip to Europe? Why not? Europe is a great place ... actually Europe is many, many places. It may be the chance of a lifetime for him to experience something new. It is sad that you can't feel excited at his good fortune. I could comment on what would appear to be his lack of consideration for your feelings, but he's not the one who wrote the original message.
Clinging round his ankles while he wants to go on this trip will break a big hole in the relationship. Letting him go and thinking about all the motives that might be involved will break a big hole in your heart. If he goes, he will learn something about the world and about himself. He might just learn how much you are willing to sacrifice for him. He might learn that he cannot bear to be without you. However, try to nail his feet to the floor and he will resent it and come to resent you.
There is a reason why this man is his ex rather than his current partner. He may need to rediscover what that is.
Whatever happens now is going to be tough. You must feel as though you are in an impossible situation. It will only definitely be the end if you make it the end.
A free trip to Europe? Why not? Europe is a great place ... actually Europe is many, many places. It may be the chance of a lifetime for him to experience something new. It is sad that you can't feel excited at his good fortune. I could comment on what would appear to be his lack of consideration for your feelings, but he's not the one who wrote the original message.
Clinging round his ankles while he wants to go on this trip will break a big hole in the relationship. Letting him go and thinking about all the motives that might be involved will break a big hole in your heart. If he goes, he will learn something about the world and about himself. He might just learn how much you are willing to sacrifice for him. He might learn that he cannot bear to be without you. However, try to nail his feet to the floor and he will resent it and come to resent you.
There is a reason why this man is his ex rather than his current partner. He may need to rediscover what that is.
Whatever happens now is going to be tough. You must feel as though you are in an impossible situation. It will only definitely be the end if you make it the end.
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