Coming out to my dad...

[pellaz]

No unfortunately I want to tell him now. If not someone else will tell him.

dont react to him like you have your whole life boo. your dad is not a god and you dont pray to him. I am saying negative things about your father because I did the father thing in a straight relationship so i have some experiences.

I would tell him bluntly in an email, after I had squeezed him for everything I could ...

I am liking the post by nullnaught. things will be smooth till he finds out. Even after he finds out there will be a little time for it to fester inside him before he has the guts to approach you about it. Maintain a standard; keep your home life quiet and secure, let him blow up on his own kind.
-"He has always criticized me, he is a very cold person"... there are reasons why he has never been kind to you (its not all about you, he is unkind to everyone) and it will not change. Its just there is not much there, he is afraid like you.
-"My dad has always made homophobic comments" ... i know this is your dad we are talking about but current theory; most homophobes are latent gay themselves. When your dad was growing up men hid those things about themselves. It was expected they married in a straight relationship and made everyone miserable. His phobic comments only indicate he is insecure about his own sexuality himself.

BREAK THE CIRCLE OF ABUSE; as a gay man get a husband and a loving house.