11-26-2011, 12:40 AM
Once we get hurt by a person we add that quality to the ruler we measure people by.
Once a guy betrays you, you will spend extra time thinking about everything another will do in the context of previous betrayal. You seem to understand that this is happening, that is half the battle.
How to get around it? Identify it for what it is and remind yourself you are not with your ex. Eventually you will reach the point where you will not be as disturbed by those things that trigger these feelings.
When you see something triggering your 'betrayal' button, count to ten slowly, take a deep breath and relook at it and tell yourself "This isn't -----------" (the name of the ex)
Once a guy betrays you, you will spend extra time thinking about everything another will do in the context of previous betrayal. You seem to understand that this is happening, that is half the battle.
How to get around it? Identify it for what it is and remind yourself you are not with your ex. Eventually you will reach the point where you will not be as disturbed by those things that trigger these feelings.
When you see something triggering your 'betrayal' button, count to ten slowly, take a deep breath and relook at it and tell yourself "This isn't -----------" (the name of the ex)
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