What doyou think?

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Ok, how often did you guys alternate. Because its been like with with him from day one. I thought it was just an opening up thing, perhaps it still is. I just think <1/week for 10 mos means something has to be at issues, whether its him or I, I'm unsure. I just don't know if I'm up for it and want as many other perspectives as I can get.

Well, honestly, for us it takes sometimes years to shift. There are times we want it just as much and other times we both are disinterested for a while. We have so much more to our relationship that although it causes friction perenialy, we are able to deal with it very well now. The biggest thing I have found was to talk a lot and as openly as possible. That way it is less likely for resentment to build up. Resentment is a relationship killer, as if you needed me to tell you that.
I would look to Browyn's advice. He's pretty brilliant. There will be a lot of good advice offered here. It seems everybody sincerely cares.mile: