falling in love with sex partners

[AlephNull]

I believe people are very different in that respect. The circumstances of the act also might dictate what you let your heart (and brain --- let's not forget that brain!) feel or not feel.

I suppose, for instance, if you were just looking for a sexual outlet for your libido, a wank might suffice or a quick (or long) shag with someone equally minded would not produce much feeling (heart-brain feeling, that is) but might give some sexual satisfaction.

Then there are those who can only or will only connect if there is something else there in the attraction, not just a physical attraction but a bond in the mind. For some it'll be the propensity to kiss and be kissed, to caress and be caressed, to love and be loved. All different acts, which might, after, before and during sex lead to a stronger bond. On top of that there is the need for fellowship, for intimacy and for comfort. So if you are looking for those things, it'll lead to falling in love (if the partner has provided some form of access).

So do you think that, because someone else has let you into their personal, intimate space, they have actually given you access to themselves?

Conversely, is this how you feel about yourself?

It seems you have pegged me accurately. There is nothing about the act of sex itself that doesn't seem extremely personal and emotional to me, even if they don't return the openness or the emotions.