12-16-2011, 08:16 PM
fenris Wrote:Honestly and from my own experiences I can tell you : That can´t work.... if someone would ask me at a first date this - for a relationship - so unimportant question I would send him back home to learn about living ;-)
This top or bottom question is maybe interesting for a year in a realtionship but after a while when the normal life starts it is better to have a soul-compatible partner as a sex- ( maybe fetish ) compatible partner.
I mean : Do you really want to say someday in the future that your partner is a Tiger in bed but a a**hole in everydays life ? And the 100% compatible Partner is a wish... a Dream ... you know... the knight on his white horse.... but life don´t work so.... life is life and not a wish-concert or a pony hotel
See my post not as a insult ... it is only what life had teached me....
Fenris I wouldn't level it to a fetish or preference. For many including myself its akin to a sexual orientation. Just like I cant be with a woman I can't have a normal relationship if someone is not sexually compat.