01-01-2012, 08:49 PM
May I ask...did you post about this maybe a year or more ago? I remember a story exactly the same except for the part about coming back and the Merry Christmas which would be new developments. If I remember correctly...alcohol was a big factor.
The reason I ask...if this is the same person I had a feeling that you might need to get some help with al anon to understand exactly what it is like being in a relationship where the person is an alcoholic...you become a co-dependent. It is important to understand the nature of co dependency in order to get past this.
If you are not the same person...forgive me. It sounds like alcohol is a factor here though and it is important to address that. If he is an alcoholic and he can press your buttons this will be an endless journey as the nature of codependency is endless as well unless you can understand it and move on.
Codependency is an addiction in itself as folks are addicted to the potential in others. A codependent tries to force the potential they think the other person has with all their might... you cannot "cure" the alcoholic or expect any change...you must make the change yourself and the change is inside..
As you stated he dumped you two months ago...If you allowed him back again last January to do this again to you...read my quote from Einstein.
The reason I ask...if this is the same person I had a feeling that you might need to get some help with al anon to understand exactly what it is like being in a relationship where the person is an alcoholic...you become a co-dependent. It is important to understand the nature of co dependency in order to get past this.
If you are not the same person...forgive me. It sounds like alcohol is a factor here though and it is important to address that. If he is an alcoholic and he can press your buttons this will be an endless journey as the nature of codependency is endless as well unless you can understand it and move on.
Codependency is an addiction in itself as folks are addicted to the potential in others. A codependent tries to force the potential they think the other person has with all their might... you cannot "cure" the alcoholic or expect any change...you must make the change yourself and the change is inside..
As you stated he dumped you two months ago...If you allowed him back again last January to do this again to you...read my quote from Einstein.
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