Capricorn
01-01-2012, 09:04 PM
Hello RNG.
I'm sorry to hear about what has happend.
As for how you are feeling, you need to give yourself time to heal. You were with this person for 8 years, you can't expect for feelings to be "gone" in such a short time.
It sounds to me that your 'ex' had some problems.....he was violent and a drinker, that's a deadly combination.
Take time for yourself and focus on other things. When I had a break up with someone, I went to see a therapist, and she told me to focus on four things........
1. Physical well being, which it sounds like you are doing. Make positive changes to your diet and exercise routine.
2. Find an outlet for expression. Write poetry, short stories, paint, make music...whatever talent you have, let it express your emotions.
3. Connect with your "spiritual" side. Whatever this is for you, God, Yoga, walks in Nature, allow yourself to get into balance with it.
4. No negativity. Don't allow yourself to say "I'm stupid" or "this happend because I am self-absorbed" and things of that nature. Make an effort to only see youself in postive ways.
Once you get these four into balance, it will help you to move forward and find yourself in a better place.
I'm sorry to hear about what has happend.
As for how you are feeling, you need to give yourself time to heal. You were with this person for 8 years, you can't expect for feelings to be "gone" in such a short time.
It sounds to me that your 'ex' had some problems.....he was violent and a drinker, that's a deadly combination.
Take time for yourself and focus on other things. When I had a break up with someone, I went to see a therapist, and she told me to focus on four things........
1. Physical well being, which it sounds like you are doing. Make positive changes to your diet and exercise routine.
2. Find an outlet for expression. Write poetry, short stories, paint, make music...whatever talent you have, let it express your emotions.
3. Connect with your "spiritual" side. Whatever this is for you, God, Yoga, walks in Nature, allow yourself to get into balance with it.
4. No negativity. Don't allow yourself to say "I'm stupid" or "this happend because I am self-absorbed" and things of that nature. Make an effort to only see youself in postive ways.
Once you get these four into balance, it will help you to move forward and find yourself in a better place.
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