01-06-2012, 12:45 AM
Hey there, Azulai!
Thanks for the insight. I feel as if, because of my conscience, I am trapped. Part of me does want to get to know him better at a slower pace... part wished I took things slower with him by not fooling around... and part wants me to break things off with him.
I have other guys that are interested in getting to know me as a person- and it doesn't seem like there is a rush from any of them to get intimate or anything like that... more down the road if things work out in each of our favor.
The things he did in the past were, according to him, because he was in the wrong place at the wrong time/not technically his fault, but he is owning up to them. Theft and something similar... leading to over a year in jail. This stuff, according to him, is in his past and he is trying to better himself- wants to finish school, lives on his own, works a lot in the hospitality industry.
On our third date, he gave me a list of all of the free time he had to see me in the coming week. I told him that the next day didn't work due to me having plans with friends (I didn't, but quickly made plans with friends)... and he asked, "Would I at least be able to see you the next day?" I had to cancel that day, also, due to legitimate family issues... he understood but asked, "will I be able to see you at all this week?" I think he actually said again that he didn't share well on that date.
Clinginess aside, he is really kind, or at least seemingly so. It is nice to have someone be interested in me without having to worry if they are sleeping around... but still, I'm just not sure. He has tooons of gay guys I recognize from dating sites on his facebook, too.
any more advice?
Thanks again!
Thanks for the insight. I feel as if, because of my conscience, I am trapped. Part of me does want to get to know him better at a slower pace... part wished I took things slower with him by not fooling around... and part wants me to break things off with him.
I have other guys that are interested in getting to know me as a person- and it doesn't seem like there is a rush from any of them to get intimate or anything like that... more down the road if things work out in each of our favor.
The things he did in the past were, according to him, because he was in the wrong place at the wrong time/not technically his fault, but he is owning up to them. Theft and something similar... leading to over a year in jail. This stuff, according to him, is in his past and he is trying to better himself- wants to finish school, lives on his own, works a lot in the hospitality industry.
On our third date, he gave me a list of all of the free time he had to see me in the coming week. I told him that the next day didn't work due to me having plans with friends (I didn't, but quickly made plans with friends)... and he asked, "Would I at least be able to see you the next day?" I had to cancel that day, also, due to legitimate family issues... he understood but asked, "will I be able to see you at all this week?" I think he actually said again that he didn't share well on that date.
Clinginess aside, he is really kind, or at least seemingly so. It is nice to have someone be interested in me without having to worry if they are sleeping around... but still, I'm just not sure. He has tooons of gay guys I recognize from dating sites on his facebook, too.
any more advice?
Thanks again!