01-08-2012, 09:32 PM
Most of the advice above is quite sound. I agree that you should try to remember what you found so intensely attractive about each-other at the start of your relationship, but it's never possible to recapture that "new relationship energy" again.
Talk to him. Be gentle and honest. Go to couple therapy to discuss it if it will make it easier. Obviously there is a big issue here and it would be a shame to let this go on any longer.
BTW, sex is a big part of MY relationship. It's not the most important thing, no, but it is very important, and if what the OP describes was happening to me, I would be asking questions and trying to negotiate something more satisfying. In the end, though, if you guys are really not feeling the spark anymore, you have to weigh-up how important it is to you, and decide whether you should just move on.
Talk to him. Be gentle and honest. Go to couple therapy to discuss it if it will make it easier. Obviously there is a big issue here and it would be a shame to let this go on any longer.
BTW, sex is a big part of MY relationship. It's not the most important thing, no, but it is very important, and if what the OP describes was happening to me, I would be asking questions and trying to negotiate something more satisfying. In the end, though, if you guys are really not feeling the spark anymore, you have to weigh-up how important it is to you, and decide whether you should just move on.
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