01-13-2012, 12:35 AM
I read a few years ago (OK over a decade ago) that most gay males prefer oral over anal, and many who do perform anal sex feel compelled to do so - as if it is obligatory.
Why do they feel obliged? Most cited gay porn as their reference material for 'normal' gay sex acts. :o
And the all time favorite sex act among gay males is merely a number: 69.
While most gay men (around 80%) have tried anal at least once (because they feel obliged to try it) closer to only 20% like it and do it again and again.
Manual manipulation (masturbation, frontage, etc) is also preferred much more than anal sex.
A good deal of the 'desired' acts for gay men has been shaped by the spread of HIV/AIDS and the impact was not so much on 'safe sex' but moving away from anal sex completely.
However the gay porn industry is the primary "leadership" we have, second to stereotyping. Stereotyping (through homophobic story telling) hands us such wonderful descriptive terms as fudge packer (My Grandfather packed fudge and other sweet delights working for a candy company - but we are not talking about that kind of fudge packing). The Negative stereotypes predominately paint gay males as either performing or having performed anal sex.
Example A Joke:
Q A bottom and top die at the same time. Which was gets to heaven (often its hell) First?
A The bottom, because his shit is already packed.
The assumption is that they are gay and they have had anal sex.
The Gay Porn industry was the first to set on itself a practice of showing safe sex (condom use). The industry set that on its own in response to the HIV/AIDS epidemic - thus the fantasy is offset with a bit of reality. It has been proposed that the 'story-line' (I use story loosely for porn) should be more inclusive of reality focusing more on what the majority want not on the preconceived notion that gay sex is a 'warmup' act of oral sex followed by the finishing act of anal.
Looking at Classical Cultures were homosexual acts were considered normal, most of them saw anal sex as being a 'bad' thing. For the Greeks and Romans, anal sex was performed on defeated warriors. That whole rape and pillage ideology was not just raping of women, it was rape of women, children and men. It was considered the cruelest most degrading act a man could do to another man. Surrounding 'barbaric' nations would resort to anal-rape as an act of conquest, thus anal sex had bad press.
No doubt a few, lets say a quarter, were into anal sex, socially it was not acceptable, as anal sex carried with it bad connotations due to its use as a way to exert power/control over conquered warriors - a form of deep emasculation.
It still carries with it those connotations of emasculation. We see it in prisons where anal rape is reserved for those deserving of 'punishment'. A lot of oral sex does take place on the 'down-low' in prison, a lot of gay males turn a tidy profit performing oral sex for 'straight' males. Few of those straight males view anal sex as being anything less than gay (a negative).
Most men do not find anal sex to be pleasurable (in the receptive mode). Anal stimulation may be pleasurable, but a thrusting penis does not actually massage the prostate as say fingering would. Most men who are the insertive partner (Top) do not know how to use their penis to massage. Hitting the prostate is kind of as elusive as hitting the G-Spot.
The idea of anal sex is usually the reason why men try it, the act itself is not all that it is cracked up to be in the minds of most men (receptive).
Why do they feel obliged? Most cited gay porn as their reference material for 'normal' gay sex acts. :o
And the all time favorite sex act among gay males is merely a number: 69.
While most gay men (around 80%) have tried anal at least once (because they feel obliged to try it) closer to only 20% like it and do it again and again.
Manual manipulation (masturbation, frontage, etc) is also preferred much more than anal sex.
A good deal of the 'desired' acts for gay men has been shaped by the spread of HIV/AIDS and the impact was not so much on 'safe sex' but moving away from anal sex completely.
However the gay porn industry is the primary "leadership" we have, second to stereotyping. Stereotyping (through homophobic story telling) hands us such wonderful descriptive terms as fudge packer (My Grandfather packed fudge and other sweet delights working for a candy company - but we are not talking about that kind of fudge packing). The Negative stereotypes predominately paint gay males as either performing or having performed anal sex.
Example A Joke:
Q A bottom and top die at the same time. Which was gets to heaven (often its hell) First?
A The bottom, because his shit is already packed.
The assumption is that they are gay and they have had anal sex.
The Gay Porn industry was the first to set on itself a practice of showing safe sex (condom use). The industry set that on its own in response to the HIV/AIDS epidemic - thus the fantasy is offset with a bit of reality. It has been proposed that the 'story-line' (I use story loosely for porn) should be more inclusive of reality focusing more on what the majority want not on the preconceived notion that gay sex is a 'warmup' act of oral sex followed by the finishing act of anal.
Looking at Classical Cultures were homosexual acts were considered normal, most of them saw anal sex as being a 'bad' thing. For the Greeks and Romans, anal sex was performed on defeated warriors. That whole rape and pillage ideology was not just raping of women, it was rape of women, children and men. It was considered the cruelest most degrading act a man could do to another man. Surrounding 'barbaric' nations would resort to anal-rape as an act of conquest, thus anal sex had bad press.
No doubt a few, lets say a quarter, were into anal sex, socially it was not acceptable, as anal sex carried with it bad connotations due to its use as a way to exert power/control over conquered warriors - a form of deep emasculation.
It still carries with it those connotations of emasculation. We see it in prisons where anal rape is reserved for those deserving of 'punishment'. A lot of oral sex does take place on the 'down-low' in prison, a lot of gay males turn a tidy profit performing oral sex for 'straight' males. Few of those straight males view anal sex as being anything less than gay (a negative).
Most men do not find anal sex to be pleasurable (in the receptive mode). Anal stimulation may be pleasurable, but a thrusting penis does not actually massage the prostate as say fingering would. Most men who are the insertive partner (Top) do not know how to use their penis to massage. Hitting the prostate is kind of as elusive as hitting the G-Spot.
The idea of anal sex is usually the reason why men try it, the act itself is not all that it is cracked up to be in the minds of most men (receptive).
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