Having a hard time understanding

[Bowyn Aerrow]

While the words are Homosexual, Heterosexual and Bisexual there is no emphasis on the sex part; thus these words are not Homosexual, Heterosexual and Bisexual.

Sexuality is not all about sex either. There is more to it, intimacy (in and out of bed), compassion, caring, love, commitment, companionship, etc. All of these also play a role in our 'sexuality' and what our 'sexual preference' is.

Just because you can get wood looking at some particular act of sex does not mean you are X - it only means you have a libido.

Considering you're 23 years old, I imagine that your libido is still very much on the high side of the gauge. As such you most like would fuck anything that didn't run away.

Men experience their peak somewhere between 18-22 - thus for the past 4 years you have been boosting at full acceleration on all boosters. You are entering the long, steady downward side of sexuality and sex drive.

And how many relationships have you been in? I mean serious, monogamous, serious attempts towards long relationship where you are dedicated to just one person?

Kissing is not a gauge of sexuality. I don't kiss. Sure a quick peck on the lips is about it, but tongue probing germ swapping - ew - gross. I only did that with 2 men in my life. And only one of them wasn't a total 'gag me with a spoon' experience - like for sure.

I all honesty I never saw myself in a relationship until I met my first, then it all kinda sorta made sense. There are men I could see myself in a relationship with. For the Record New Gingrich is NOT one of them.

And there has been one (1 - singular) woman who I really could envision not only a relationship, but a wedding, 2.5 children, a house with a white picket fence, etc....

Technically two if we include the torch I carry for Meryl Streep, I've been carrying that torch since 1982 when I saw her in Sophie's Choice. Yeah I fell in love with her when I was 16.

Personalities, character, and lots of other things play a role in attraction. Its not just physical animal sexual attraction you need to consider here.

I think you have yet to meet a nice gal, or guy, that you can be more into than just mere sex. I suspect that there will come a guy or a gal, that you will lay eyes on and immediate envision a future of 'us'.

I think up to this point you have only been in lust and haven't been in love. When you are in love suddenly your own sexuality will become clear to you - you will suddenly identify as 'X' because you see yourself with that person in ways you haven't been with another person to date.