Having a hard time understanding

[BobInTampa]

There were some great posts on this thread...but i wanted to chime in on your "i don't kiss guys" position.

There's little doubt that "kissing" is something that our society in the US equates to real INTIMACY. In Europe, people don't shake hands, they kiss, and while i'm not saying they don't view kissing more or less and intimate act, the perception is different.

That said, it's pretty clear to me that right now, you're comfortable being sexual with a guy for the "release" but mentally, you've drawn the line at kissing.

I'll tell you, a long time ago, i was EXACTLY the same way. My wife (now ex wife) and i started experimenting in swinging and bi sex. Long story short, i got very comfortable with messing with other men in the swinging world, until ONE day. I was watching football with a bi buddy (he had joined my wife and i many times in a 3way)....we were drinking and such, and during half-time we put on a home video of the 3 of us having sex..and we started messing around....fast forward to us naked on the couch, i had decided to let him penetrate me......and once he was all the way in, we were face to face, and he planted the most tender, passionate kiss i had ever felt. I'm telling you i saw fireworks. Yea, sure, some of it was about bottoming, but i had the perception that a man's kiss would be rough, scratchy and uncomfortable...man was i wrong.

Something in me changed that day - it's when i allowed myself to really accept the idea of full and complete intimacy with a man.

So, while you can keep that line in the sand, there will come a time when you will probably kiss a guy - and THEN you'll have a new perspective on your sexual identity.