Well, although it is gonna be difficult for you sweet, but, the fact of the matter is, you have to control your emotion at the moment. I can totally understand what you are feeling, and all, i can say is that, although, you love this guy, but, the same is not coming to you back. I would not blame the guy at all for anything, as he is appreciating your feelings, and being quite honest with the fact, that he is leaving the country soon. It is very much likely that the guy hasnt got the same feelings for you, but, i can vouch for the fact, that he definitely wants to be friends with you. Although, it will be difficult for you to view him as a friend, but, if you can and if that is what he wants, you may try to be rational and just stay friends with him. Maybe, many years later, you guys so close to each other that you become inseparable.
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Here again...!!! So, I want tell what's going on with my friend now... four days after my emotional explosion he called me and asked me for something... I didn't say no of course... (it doesn't matter what)... eversince we are eveyday together and spending at least 8 hours and max 14 hours per day... as best friends...!!! as twin brothers... it's obvious that he really likes me as a friend but isn't it strange that after all the things I said to him he keeps me more closer to him instead of meeting me time to time as a regular friend?? and he is the one who calls me everyday to meet... I can't move on by this way... and he knows that I can't cause we're together all the time and ok I'm not complaining about it cause I like it and to be honest I don't feel like moving on, I know that my behaviour doesn't help me either but still... he made clear to me that he wants us to stay friends... but he knows how I feel about him and he also knows that all the things I'm doing is for him... does he really think that I see him as a friend? I cannot go through this conversation with him again cause it's silly... something more... he also says now that he doesn't know if he'll stay away from the country for a long time, he may come back in two months or in a year... and he invited me to visit him abroad as well... any ideas??
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Time to lay down rules, if he wants you other than a fall back point,he needs to step up to the plate, if he just wants you to hang on when he is inbetween, that won't work for you. All relationships gay or straight have to have rules, the don't go beyonds, and if going beyond occurs over and over, there is no relationship. I know this the hard way, Jim
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I am a little worried at the liberties he is taking.
I realize that your not bothered by the time you spend together , however how will you handle it , If and when he introduces you to people as just a friend, or worse introduces you to his new lover as a friend ?
Think about this for a while.
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Back again... I'm in such a big trouble... With the friend of mine everything is fine.. we're friends... I finally realized that I have to move on it took me a long time but I did it... so.. I met this other guy.. Actually we were chatting for like a year but we never had the chance to meet cause he was travelling a lot.. anyway we fainally met and had sex...at first it was pretty clear that that's it, at least to me (and still is) ok.. we met again and it happened again... but there's a problem... he is a student here and he is finishing his studies in couple of months and leaving the country in August... I knew it and we agreed on that but after another meeting he told me that he's in love with me... I told him that he's not supposed to tell me all those things and not let himself to feel that way cause he knows that he's leaving and that to me it's really clear about the kind of relationship that we can have... ( I know that it's hard through my own experience)... after he started crying... I really don't know... I told him that we can't be together if he feels this way... what am i supposed to do?? be with him until he leaves or end it now??
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If you love him and have feelings why cant you both fight for this love??? I am sure if its going to be true either your go with him or he will go with you at the end of the day love is worth fighting for despite boarders
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