Is he letting me down gently?
03-04-2012, 01:53 PM
I agree with Mum and Ryan (SlipknotRIZZ) but also know that at your ages you have a lot going on, and study or work pressure as well as family pressures, not to mention social pressures from friends and all. Maybe he's trying to find his ground, and maybe he's playing the field, just trying to work out what works best for him. He says he wants to be friends, and that ought to be good enough for the moment, till you really develop another kind of relationship.
On your side, however, it means you can play the field too, and should try to see if there aren't any other people you can date and have fun with. As Kiid said, there are other fish in the sea, and although I understand how pleased you must have been to find someone you really got on well with (especially when it's difficult to meet people or have the guts to start dating them), going out just once doesn't really make the relationship very stable right there and then, know what I mean?
There's the old saying of "not putting all your eggs in one basket", meaning it's consider safer to put them in several baskets in case you drop one accidentally... so maybe it applies here, that you should continue making more friendships, and then you too will have a proper choice of a boyfriend or something serious in the relationship department.
Some of us waited until their forties or later to find boyfriend material of any kind. If this boy is not boyfriend material, I hope he can, at least, be a good friend. Friends are important. In any case, good luck but don't be impatient and try not to be jealous, and not expect what has clearly not been promised. It's a foul feeling to have as baggage.
PS, some have said that he may be a toad (frog) but maybe he's also still very confused about what he wants to be and needs to do... I think you know more clearly what you are and what you want out of life. Maybe he's a person who takes advantage of others (a user), but then that teaches us lessons on what expectations to have with other people. I'm sure you know how it feels to be let down. You mentioned the gentleness of the "drop" so you must have been aware that this was not necessarily a "for life" thing.
On your side, however, it means you can play the field too, and should try to see if there aren't any other people you can date and have fun with. As Kiid said, there are other fish in the sea, and although I understand how pleased you must have been to find someone you really got on well with (especially when it's difficult to meet people or have the guts to start dating them), going out just once doesn't really make the relationship very stable right there and then, know what I mean?
There's the old saying of "not putting all your eggs in one basket", meaning it's consider safer to put them in several baskets in case you drop one accidentally... so maybe it applies here, that you should continue making more friendships, and then you too will have a proper choice of a boyfriend or something serious in the relationship department.
Some of us waited until their forties or later to find boyfriend material of any kind. If this boy is not boyfriend material, I hope he can, at least, be a good friend. Friends are important. In any case, good luck but don't be impatient and try not to be jealous, and not expect what has clearly not been promised. It's a foul feeling to have as baggage.
PS, some have said that he may be a toad (frog) but maybe he's also still very confused about what he wants to be and needs to do... I think you know more clearly what you are and what you want out of life. Maybe he's a person who takes advantage of others (a user), but then that teaches us lessons on what expectations to have with other people. I'm sure you know how it feels to be let down. You mentioned the gentleness of the "drop" so you must have been aware that this was not necessarily a "for life" thing.
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