Strictly top or bottom?

[JRiver]

I've never been big on ... shall we say ... "rear entry", either as a "top" or a "bottom". It's not that I won't or that I can't -- I'm versatile. But it happens very, very infrequently. I'm into oral, both giving and receiving. Same with my Sweetie, and my Sweetie before him.

Is this okay? Can I still be a member of your gay club?

[Jayd]

Definitely. I think any arousal/stimulation that leads to sexual release ie climax counts as sex. And I feel that some days, sex is just sex and not dependent upon location. for example like when the greeks rub against one another in the ancient times. Yes, I am being vague, point is, you are welcome to my gay club!!!

[Bowyn Aerrow]

I've never been big on ... shall we say ... "rear entry", either as a "top" or a "bottom". It's not that I won't or that I can't -- I'm versatile. But it happens very, very infrequently. I'm into oral, both giving and receiving. Same with my Sweetie, and my Sweetie before him.

Is this okay? Can I still be a member of your gay club?

Anal sex. The reality is (various polls and studies) have demonstrated that a majority of gay males actually prefer oral sex and other forms of manipulation to anal sex.

The whole fixation on anal sex is a fixation of the straight/homophobic crowd. This has, unfortunately, bled over to things like pornography where both oral and anal are shown.

Society pushes us in this anal direction... more than we really want.

[ZackT]

I'd call myself versatile, but I lean much more strongly towards receiving.

Of course, since i have a girlfriend, I'm the giver Though we may be trying something different soon :o

[Gaydude3]

I think there is someone for everyone but I don't care much for oral and am much more into anal.


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[Wsup]

I don't think you have to have strict roles. I know a lot of successful relationships where one is only "top" and the other is vers. though I have to say that it's likely that the vers guy may stray sexually if he isn't fulfilled, on both ends so to speak, over time.

[DJM]

I really want to try topping, but I've only ever been with very strict tops That said, I love bottoming.

[VagabondKitten]

I'm pretty much a complete top myself. I have almost a mental block when it comes to being bottom, even the thought of it alone makes me feel really uncomfortable. Now if I was dating someone, and I really cared for them and trusted them, I might be willing to attempt being bottom if they really wanted me to, but honestly I have pretty much no drive for being bottom. So there are people out there who are strictly top (for the most part), you just gotta keep looking!

[Beaux]

My husband is a complete top. When we were apart I dated other guys (naturally) and found that with some I preferred to top and (rarely) I bottomed with a few others. If I were single and dating I think I would most likey look for a relationship where I was the top, but I love my husband very much and am content in our relationship, so bottoming is the role I play.
Speaking only for myself, I find that only a certain kind of man can top me; if I am more masculine than my sexual partner, then being on top is the only position that appeals to me. That is not to say that I am some kind of "he-man", but for the most part in my dating life I tended to be more masculine than the majority of the guys I dated. My husband, however, is what most would consider a "mans-man" (marine, physically imposing) and when we are together bottoming is very natural to me (and I have to say, I have felt that way about VERY few men).

[East]

Hey Bo! How goes it? Nice to "see" you! I agree about the bottoming...very few men can get me in that space...for me it is about confidence. I will bottom for someone who is confident enough to take me there.